Victimizing behavior: bad thing and embarrassing. Good thing to be aware to assume responsibilities.
Berkeley, May 27, 2019 11:39 PM
Here, I am writing, just to get off of my mind. Then, it would be just for my records, which I understand, can be accessed by other curios audience, which is very welcome to check my personal blog, and comment in the post of you want.
Anyways, this is a personal rant.
I cannot believe I approach as victim few times, my studies and work, since spring 2018. The other side of over assuming responsibilities might not be healthy, but it is the one that I prefer rather to complain, particularly to third parties. Complaining to person directly it can be healthy, if it is supported with results. Complaining is one thing. To talk proactively and to find timely solutions is another different, which is the healthy one.
In any case, sometimes I might have played the victimized role, laying out the duties. I might have been looking for advices, but I rather think those ended up us complains with third parties.
In part, I am glad that I talked with with my advisor, about two weeks ago, about things that liked and disliked directly. He is a straightforward and efficient person. A magic sentence came related to my research. ‘Well, it is your topic’. Such a great responsibility in that sentence. Yes, and I can develop further about the topic evolution, here, and perhaps in sowamar some results some time. But it is time to go to sleep.